I was recently invited to a social event with a group of people who know me in a very particular work-related way. They were used to seeing me teaching, speaking, and writing about nonviolent communication, integral theory, positive psychology, and mind-body practices, and I noticed an unexpected reaction in me when I attended this event.

I was surprisingly uncomfortable.

I noticed myself becoming aware of an expectation (in myself? in them?) that I fit a very particular version of “healthy” and “skillful” and “aware” that left me feeling icky. …

Yvette Erasmus PsyD

Writer, speaker, psychologist, and consultant offering practical tools and insights for conscious, compassionate, courageous living. Based in Minneapolis, MN.

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